when was script is not script

[kara]

It most likely will be a battle, Jstar. So prepare yourself mentally and physically.

I haven't been on much lately but I am reading along and wishing you the best.

[dbmod]

Hi Jstar,

How are you doing?

[Jstar]

Update:

based upon actions or lack there of actions there is not much else to believe. h does not ask questions about me, nor inquire anything about me or the kids.

we have drop off and pick ups 2-3 times a day, and no longer brings d3 to my classroom to say hello when her day is over, rate before my lunch.

we have no conversations nothing.

monday i went down to court, filed for divorce, have not had him served, y not, very good question. i was not upset i was smiling happy, naturally upbeat. was it because i took control of situation by filing or subconciously happy to file, i can not answer that since i do not know.

i do know that i have not thought negative things about h, i dream of him nightly.

what am i waiting for, a sign that says ok have him served?

the court has been trying to send him documents since august via certified mail in which he will not accept, the lastes of oct21, so why is not accepting???

is not the time to say something to him or ask him, if he wants to divorce our previous marriage, try to reconcile or just let everything go and file?

or should i do a dipstick test and invite him to do something? i really am not wanting to divorce but don't know how to bridge the gap we have,? if i should even bother.

he may look at it if i serve him oh yeah ok she really wants a divorce i haven't filed and now she has. i keep going over in my head, believe 1/2 of what they say....

anyone?

[Jstar]

how do i get it so we are having peaceful or friendly type interactions? to move it to a better place?

[Mach1]

i keep going over in my head, believe 1/2 of what they say....

anyone?

From what I read, you may not believe it, but you certainly do react to it..

What goals have you put out there, for you ?

[Jstar]

Mach1,

That is a very good question. I have lost sight of goals. Looks like i need to set some.

Are you meaning goals like??

Within the next two weeks, engage positively with h in child exchanges.?

[Mach1]

Within the next two weeks, engage positively with h in child exchanges.?

More like....

In the next two weeks, I am gonna clean out the garage, take a spa day for myself, get a haircut, learn to cook like a French chef......

Things for YOU....


Treat him like the washing machine and let him spin for now....

[Jack_Three_Beans]

The positive child exchange is a DB goal that you'll be able to see as well.

[Jstar]

I can go buy some new clothes....

i could ask him to watch the kids so i can do my yard work on one of his days off.

I really stink at all of this and feel like just tell me exactly what to do.

[Mach1]

I can go buy some new clothes....

i could ask him to watch the kids so i can do my yard work on one of his days off.

I really stink at all of this and feel like just tell me exactly what to do.

Then they wouldn't really be your 180's....

They would be ours, here on the boards , that you are doing..




Think of some things you have always wanted to do , but felt too tied down to do it....

Just remember...

If at first you don't succeed at Skydiving.....

Maybe it's not your thing.


: )