She says seperate or divorce after her affair help

[bethann]

Look -- again, I'm not an expert, or I wouldn't be here again. This much I can tell you -- my H told me over and over again that he was NOT coming back and he did NOT love me and that it was OVER. Th DB book made me feel better about myself and the better I felt, the more he took notice of me and we did get back together. We were together for 6 years before I landed back here again. So I can tell you that it doesn't hurt to try if you want her back. I know how confused you are -- do you really want to try, should you give up, she doesn't really deserve you. I also run the gammet of confusion. Reality is you both do need a break from each other and you need to take care of you. I guarantee the minute you start actually feeling better she'll notice. I can't guarantee your M will survive, but she WILL notice you being happier and whatever does happen, you will feel better about you. Keep your chin up!