My goal is to point out to my H that D3 is being effected by his behavior in front of her. He tends to think that this stuff just goes over her head, but she picks up way more than he realizes. Like wanting to us to take D3 to the park while he tells me he will be filing for divorce. He tends to have a "she will adjust to whatever happens" attitude.
Ideally I would like us to write guidelines for ourselves with the intent that they be included in any divorce agreement.
At a minimum I want to know when my D is arround OW or any other non-family or friend. I feel that is reasonable. He should want the same thing too.
Even if he eventually backs down from the divorce, I think he and I need to spend time on this now.
