IC said he thought EA is a A Cry for help... That all Human beings need affection, connection and interaction -- and I obvious was devoid. He said every person needs 2-3 close friends (me -- 0), and 4-6 aquaintences you socialize with regularly (doing better there).
IC said he was more concerned about the fact that up until EA I basically have been in bed for past 3 years... Depression... And that the EA made me feel alive again.
As far as obsessing, he pointed out that there are 2 things in life that get your attention: 1) the compelling (EA) and 2) the important (taking care of yourself, kids, job).
Ge gave me some really concrete steps for boosting my mind chemicals, which he suspects were bottomed out until EA, and which is why the compulsion is so strong.
He gave me some baby Steps for dealing with EA, as he HEARD me about this being my best friend for the past year (before it turned romantic 2 weeks ago.).
IC is my age and said H probably won't be that freaked out about EA since OM 20 yrs younger and 1000 miles away. IC pointed out that these aspects probably made it seem "safer" to me with little chance of real-life R.
Just good to get it out to a REAL live person, since do much of my life has become cyber with this EA.
IC pointed out the important thing right now is to get a life -- out of my head, out of my house, out of my bed and NOT just with kid's activities, since empty nest not far away.
He is having me put each issue (EA, H, and my depression) in separate Boxes... And take on most important first and foremost. Underlying, longterm depression being the 1st...
Whew... Haven't had this much drama in my life in decades-- this rollercoaster of feelings has me wiped up, unable to eat.
IC suggested a specific type if Omegas for depression, etc. plus book by Dr. Daniel Amen...
Hang in there FMV, we'll get through this together...
