My 40 year old wife's MLC

[Truegritter]

and I said She is my friend too and she invited me so yes I am going. Wife stormed out and went upstairs

Was it then that you knew she was upset or...

and did not surface until Sunday night around dinner time.

Then?

Troy what did you want to accomplish?

What was your goal?

nothing I do will change her mind

How about something you don't do?

I am doing all of the cooking, she just lays on her ass and reads books.

Martyr.

How is all that working for you Troy?

Do you want to be married to this woman?

What do you think you just communicated with your actions?

Do you think she feels happy right now?

Listen I am not trying bust your chops.

This is the part where you have to rise above what's being thrown your way.

Do you believe your W is having a crisis?

Would you want to drive a dump truck through a nitroglycerin plant?

I understand you are angry, frustrated, disapointed .....etc.

You have to detach from all that crap she is causing inside you or you won't make it.

You'll feel like a martyr.

A doormat.

Then you'll become a doormat with feet and walk yourself in front of another door.

Get me?

Take control of this emotion inside you, it will not serve your journey my friend.

The sooner you stop looking at her then you can work on YOU.