I will let him bring up the subject - not me. If and when he does, I will make sure it is not on the phone, but in person. I think I will mostly ask questions instead of giving an opinion. He needs to think about he pros and cons and voice them outloud. Not have me TELL him the pros and cons.
Thing is...moving back home is not a horrible idea for the FUTURE. BUT (and this is a big giant BUT) He has a lot to work on himself first. I know also that he can't totally let go of the OW yet. Even though they have talked about ending it - he still feels like he needs to talk to her. That has to end.
Somehow, in a very gentle way, I need him to realize for himself that we can't run away from our problems. Before we could even think about moving, we need to make sure we are together and healthy in our relationship.
I really think he just needs to occupy his mind from all the drama going on and think of the future where in his mind there is no more drama. Maybe I just let him dream and I just sit back and nod my head.
Thoughts???
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
