I am not sure it's about "loving" somebody enough. Some people just don't want to deal with the responsibility of marriage. And I don't mean paying the bills and junk like that (of course that is important). But marriage requires work and constant evolution and self examination in a R is foreign to many people.
Once we start learning it is easy to see how things can be "fixed" or how they can change. I sort of think that alone fuels the feeling of love because things are more clear. But they are only clear on on end (yours).
It is sad, I know. But I doubt it's about loving you enough. It really is more about him and what he chooses not to do because of his choice not to self examine. It's just too much for some people and I think both of our H's fit in the category.
