Thank you for all your kind thoughts about my mom. She is doing better and should be released tomorrow. It was very scary. We are pretty close so I was freaking out. Love you guys!
You all make valid points. The thing is that
Originally Posted By: CityGirl
Your H is a very, very guilty man and the way he communicates with you clearly spells it out.
Action is the only thing I will consider responding to and the action must have my comfort and security in mind 110%.
Both of thse comments resonated with me. I do see the similarites in our stbx's, CG. It is very confusing to me to hear one thing and yet see something totally different (action-wise). How can he say I am the only one for him, that marriage should only happen one time and be divorcing me? It makes nooo sense.
IR, I lurve you, too I appreciate the 2x4. My friends didn't sell me out. They just happened to be where stbx was and it prob triggered his mind and maybe he went driving looking for me late at night? Didn't see my car so he assumed the worst. He does not know HG at all. And I did not want to lie to him. So while I didn't go into details confirming or denying I did tell him the bare minimum, and that yes, I've been out w/ a dude recently. As for HG, I am confused how to handle this cause I feel myself liking him yet I don't want to rush anything and well, I think I've been pretty good about it. Advice on how to handle that with him? I dont want to stop hanging with him yet I get where you are coming from.
What do I want? I want for my M to be a success and keep going but I can't find stbx on that. He has made iet clear ovcer and over again, even with this latest thing, that he does NOT want to be married and that it is the ONLY solution. Even as he's upset about me hanging w/ another dude.
It's awful.
I will write some more. GOnna grab a bite to eat quickly....
I appreciate the 2x4. My friends didn't sell me out. They just happened to be where stbx was and it prob triggered his mind and maybe he went driving looking for me late at night? Didn't see my car so he assumed the worst. He does not know HG at all. And I did not want to lie to him. So while I didn't go into details confirming or denying I did tell him the bare minimum, and that yes, I've been out w/ a dude recently. As for HG, I am confused how to handle this cause I feel myself liking him yet I don't want to rush anything and well, I think I've been pretty good about it. Advice on how to handle that with him? I dont want to stop hanging with him yet I get where you are coming from.