I think my message tonight will be the following if it is brought up:
- Neither of us are ready to move back in (mind reading), there are a lot of trust issues that still reside and I would like to work on that first (Actions and boundaries)- I've had terrible advice from my men's group mentor, and give her examples (pursuing, convincing, excusing)- I'm on different meds from the doctor who's said I have GAD (more pity - opposite show of strength and respect)- Almost dying was not fun, and has made an impact on who I want to be and who I am. I don't want to waste another day being angry or hurt (let actions speak, more excuses)- I've made the mistake of expecting her to do the work required and take the initiative to fix all of this, which I won't make again. I'll just work on me which I should have been going on all along rather than focusing on her. - Validate. Validate. Validate.
Validate that which is valid. Dont put of with anymore guilt though.
