See, John - your list is exactly what some of us are trying to point out.
Your ACTIONS will exhibit all of those things. Words mean nothing. Your W will eventually see your anxiety has lessened. Hearing about it hardly has the impact of SEEING it.
Telling her you are changed after the hospital is not necessary - just change and go about your business if you feel something new is in order.
I really hope you consider a woman's viewpoint - she will not be impressed with talking - keep quiet and let your actions say it all. All this talking is like beating a dead horse.
