IMO you do an awful lot of mind reading when it comes to your W.
I guess I don't understand why you always feel your W *wants* to talk about where things are going. Is it because YOU want to talk about that? In this case I am not sure it's so bad NOT to know.
It is very annoying to always have to talk about something when you don't want to or are not sure what is next. Sometimes it is best just to be and let things happen in a more organic fashion. It is VERY upsetting to feel so boxed in by feelings and desires if the feeling is not mutual. It's a real killer of anything positive.
Until your W knocks on your door and says she is ready to come home and is ready to do the work to reconcile AND she has a clear plan on her participation in that venture then leave things be. Your W knows exactly how available you are.
