My thoughts are with you. I do still hope you can work something out with hubby, but I'm learning that we drive our own happiness in this life. Would he be willing to go to therapy to have a happier dissolution of the marriage? It can be done.
I really don't know what to say, Jo. It's a tough time for us both, so my heart is genuinely with you today. I will stay in touch re your posts over on STBD.