I forgot to mention that I would be out of touch for a bit...I went on vacation, and it was just my H & I. I wish I could say that we came home with all of our problems solved, but we didn't. It wasn't horrible either though.
In response to Young At Heart, I would say that my husband's primary languages of love are physically oriented, and I would say that with the exception of sex, I do touch him quite a bit. I would say that it is he who has not yet embraced the idea of "making each other feel loved and respected" He has been unhappy or unfulfilled and fighting to have his own needs met with the general idea that when he is happy then he will automatically make me happy. This is totally understandable, but did not help us get to a better placce.
As it turns out, something about our vacation together clicked with him and he has been trying to be a different person since we got home. I recognize this and would like to embrace it. In the past when he has made efforts at change, I was leary and basically stood at a distance to see what would happen. Inevitably, he would feel that his efforts were for nothing because I was non-responsive and he would give up. This time I would like to be more responsive and positively reinforce his efforts...but I also want to do it at my own pace. I need help though, because, honestly (even if irrationally), I am afraid.
