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[25yearsmlc]

25 - "Check out faithisbelieving's thread sometime for a guy on the div side of things who handled it with honor. And check out faithfulhusbands "

What folders are these threads in?
Forget their forums (not "folders", unless that's a new term) b/c they posted in many forums. Search for their names and see them there. I posted recently to faithisbelieving on his thread. Dont' recall the forum. If it's not easy, then try infidelity for FIB's and maybe Piecing for Faithfulh's. Faithfulhusband stuck it out and took a very enlightened approach that would NOT work for everyone. But he sure did detachment well. And they are reconciled and happy. But like I said, they both post in many areas. IF robx isn't posting anymore (he came on strong at times but there were MANY times when 2 x4s were necessary. LBSers do a lot of time wasting on the WASs.

As I told you, my biggest regret is how much time I spent on my H's thoughts/feelings/ideas/plans/ blah blah blah. Instead of MY life and MY future and our children's. I cannot stress that enough, and sometimes the only way to get thru to someone is to blast them for making the same mistake 100 times, and THEN somehow thinking that the 101st time of the same behavior will result in a new reaction. IT doesn't.)

But see if Gucci or Coach are around, as is jack3beans. I'm a woman. There are times you need a woman's viewpoint, but Generally, you have to hear manly advice from a man

And - any 180 ideas for a guy who is already GAL "busy"?

Depends what your GAL activities are. If you are doing a lot of self reflective things, I would say do something physical. IF it's all physical, take a class in something more intellectual, or spiritual. Find a topic or class that either has interested you for a long time, or that you are newly curious about, like a foreign language or even dance. Yes, dance....both those classes are things I love, and a lot of females do. I took a class in handyman stuff b/c h was GONE as far as I could tell and I found it empowering. Didn't miss h as much or feel the "need" for him for handyman stuff.
But I'm not suggesing a tactic to meet women with, so much as a really different type of GAL. So what are your GAL things now?

And know that truly, you will get through this. Like I said, a whole lot of walking wounded out there but they usually heal. When? They heal when they get sick & tired of feeling sick & tired. They choose to heal Their wounds.

Some people tend to repeat their mistakes, or run from them and date/marry the total opposite of the person who hurt them. If you really get through this and learn from it, you will come out of this a better man and you WILL find yourself a better man. That counts.