Quote: I'm really very comfortable right now doing a 180 of sorts. I am taking the advice here to heart.
HUH? I don't remember anyone here telling you to do the things you are doing?
Quote: We ended the session going over her *need for space*, and he told me to give her space in a loving fashion, not a mean-spirited, *okay b**ch, take all the time you want* fashion. Nevertheless, I continued my angry stance after the meeting, and barely said goodbye to her as we left.
This is exactly what all of us have been telling you to do.
Quote: We just got right down to business, and I went over our past up until my initial affair 5 years ago,
Initial? The word "initial" indicates there was more than one affair. Was there? How many times have you hurt your wife the way you are hurting right now? Why, with this new "unique perspective" you have aren't you able to have some empathy for this woman? You are walking in her shoes right now aren't you Brian and it isn't fun. This is the way I see it, you are either disrespecting your wife by screwing around on her and then smothering her to get forgiveness or you are becoming defensive and treating her dismissively. Maybe if you could conjure up a small amount of empathy for someone you hurt in the past you might could find some middle ground and finally start doing the right thing. Cathy~
