What I KNOW after being HERE for 3 years.......

[handlingplanb]

1. THIS is not about my H's MLC.

2. THIS is not about whether it IS or is NOT MLC.

3. Finding myself, learning who I am and what I want is parmount.

4. Time can bring distance and ease the pain, but the pain does not go away.

5. Time does not help make sense of THIS.

6. Time does not bring understanding.

7. Being lied to and cheated on by someone you love is something that is very difficult to recover from.

8. I still believe in unconditional love and committment.

9. I still love my H - but not what he's done and who he "appears" to be now.

10. I am growing very tired of limbo.

11. I am tired of feeling anger.

12. I am still greiving for what I've lost.

14. I am still blaming myself for my part in this.

15. I am still grieving what my children have lost.

16. I still feel that divorce is wrong.

17. I have A LOT of work to do to move past #7-16. Still.

18. Detachment is a long process, but helps.

19. There is wealth of wonderful advice given here, but only helps when you are ready and "able" to do the WORK---and listen it.

20. I am ready to do the work NOW, because finding myself, learning who I am and what I want is parmount.