OOPS! There's more to the story than I posted yesterday. Mr. A and I talked by phone on Saturday night and again last night. Our talk on Saturday was pretty emotional. He said he had made the biggest mistakes of his life over the past year and a half by leaving me, being unfaithful, treating me so badly, etc., all he wanted was to be with me and me alone, he was so happy just to talk to me, etc. He really sounded sincere. I told him I was scared to believe him because I thought we were reconciling in August/September and then things blew up once again in October. He understood my reticence and said he was just so happy to talk to me and hear my voice. He said he'll take whatever he can get.
Since the last time we talked, which was when he lost his job, he's gotten a new job, which he starts in a couple of weeks, and he's been living on his own for about 3 weeks now. This is the first time in his life that he's lived alone, and he told me he's extremely lonely. Join the club!
He called me again several times on Sunday morning; I was busy and texted that we could talk in the evening. So we did, and it was ok, but 1) he pulled back a little, and 2) we ignored the elephant in the room and just basically made small talk.
As to point 1, I'm not worried. Trying to get him interested in me never works. If he was hot to trot on Saturday and then cooled off a little on Sunday, so be it. Not my problem.
Point 2 is more concerning. If we're going to talk to each other, we need to start talking about what's happened over the past couple of years and what our current feelings and thoughts are. Based on his texts and what he said on the phone on Saturday, I know he wants those talks too, but neither of us knows how to instigate that kind of conversation.
Any ideas? How do you start talking about all that's happened and gone wrong without both people feeling terrible at the end?
