I think Cathy is right. I believe it cuz I see a lot of the same fear in myself. I have come to realize that if I had been willing to let go years ago she probably would have recognized SELF CONFIDENCE in me and would have been a lot more interested in me.
I know how this bs sucks to high heaven, believe me I'm in the middle of a truckload of manure myself. You have to seek your own peace, without her. Give her up and she may come back to you. We certainly can't force our wives to love them. Some women jsut seem to be repelled by romance and loving sweet guys. I'll bet that the fireman is a hunky bastard with a lot of confidence and a dash of bad boy attitude with a side of "I'm intriguingly mysterious but with a sensitive touch". She's gone for the bait. It's totally textbook. Get a little arrogant, get pissed--not to get revenge or any crap like that. Be nice, gentlemanly but get so pissed inside that you say to yourself "I don't give a flying fck anymore, if she doesn't want me then I'm not going to kiss her hot little asss anymore". Look at other women, they are out there, this will give you some confidence to be yourself. If she wants to be with you she will come back. You've got the message across that you dig her--now let her decide.
Frankly, I'd tell her to take the firedude and move on. But then again, I'm pissed these days.
