Midlife,

This is kind of typical behavior for an MLC'r. I don't know if

that is what your H is going through but you have to read the

resources and make your own decision if it is. The fact that you

have not received the papers yet says to me that he feels guilty

to fully pull the trigger. At least now when the papers do come,

it won't be a complete shocker. Of course this stuff hurts badly.

Many of us here have had this same thing happen to us. Do not be

afraid to come here and vent. There are good people here to help

you through this. Please be easy on yourself. I realize that this

stuff is extremely hard to deal with and I know what you must be

feeling. I have three kids as well and when your spouse turns

into someone that you feel you don't even know anymore it is

very hard to understand what is going on and also keep your head

straight. Keep posting so the people here can help you.

WS