Pie's Story - he's comfortable again

[Albuquerque]

Pie,

Your situation sounds very similar to the situation I was in. I never knew FOR SURE there was an OW. I just had very strong suspicions. But I didn't snoop or try to find out or confront H. I DID keep a close eye on FB which was how I got the suspicion in the first place (and I was correct). I know how difficult it is NOT knowing. You kind of at least WANT to know, even if it will be painful. After much thought I realized that it was probably in my best interest to assume the worst. Believe he had OW and confront the issues head on. Feel the pain, the betrayal, the hurt, the anger....and then move on. I can't say I ever was OK with the OW, but at least it didn't ruin my ability to have genuinely good days otherwise. In time, the truth will come out. If it's true, then you're prepared. If it's not, then your vindicated. Either way its a win. It kind of doesn't matter whether he's in MLC or not. In the end, you still need to work on YOU and YOU alone. Leave him be. If he wants to chat, let him take the lead. But as Zen said. DETACH DETACH DETACH!! You can do this Pie!