I don't know. She went to him with our problems for months and he just sided with her and consoled her about everything. Made her feel special, made himself out to be perfect...and she believed every word of it.
Our relationship problems were rather mundane and would have been VERY easily fixed if she had come to me and made it clear that we needed to work some things out, or our relationship would be in trouble.
I've DB'd my butt off for the last several months and addressed every issue she had with me...to the best of my ability anyhow, since we are separated. She said she saw how much I was trying and how much I've improved things about myself...but I guess it wasn't enough.
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children