How do I deal with now he's overseas?

[newmama]

Hey, I was totally going to recommend that you let your H see an FB page! You can have one in your daughter's name or something if you dont' want him to have access to yours. Glad to see someone else had a similar thought. (aka Eric)

I was thinking about your dilemma of whether you should try to show your daughter that you never blocked her dad from her and tried to foster the relationship.I will say that even if he was still in the country and having shared visits, you would have to deal with him. Pretty much, he is her parent and as long as you think he is safe enough for her to be around, then you kind of have to put up with him and let him have access to her.
Be careful of "parental alienation." (not that you are doing that but blocking him from her life might be interpreted as that)