It's has only been a couple of weeks since things careemed out of control. She does not know where she stands anymore because the rules and the situations changed drastically. Theis may be a defense mechanism for her, trying to justify what happened, it's hard to say.
Patience is the only way to handle this. How often are you having contact? Just a call once day is still a connector between the two of you. She wants space, you are trying to give it to her, but this is going to take some time to resolve. Patience and a cool head. If either of you make decisions right now, how grounded will those decisions be? Not very. Give this some time and let things find their new level. It is encouraging that she is willing to go to a counselor with you.
