Hi Zen-
Wow. That b-day party must have been tough to attend. Between the SIL's announcement and H's hugs, most would not have handled it so well.

As I have said before, I am quite inexperienced to give advice so I will try not to do so. BUT, I can't help thinking that he is still doing a ton of cake-eating, literally! Share a cupcake, 2 hugs? I don't see where he is having to feel the loss at all. I am not a parent so I will admit I don't know how to balance a healthy relationship for the sake of a child. But Jeez! Why not just reach in and rip your heart out while he is at it?

Keeping a healthy relationship with the in-laws is one thing but he seems to be depending on you doing just that. That is one big safety net he is pitching for himself...

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."