Oh yes... I stopped reading the DB book and decided to complete the DR book first. So far I like it better. The DB book is a little bland at first and does explain that divorce sucks... I agree 25... we figured that out already.
I think today went well... Like the DR book said... Look for small changes in her behavior. Obviously not much has been said at all between us for the past 2 weeks. Today she dropped of the kids, I went out to get the baby. She seemed more pleasant than usual. I didn't say much just spoke to and focused on the kids to get them inside. She said she rented a video for the kids and asked if I wanted to use it and return it for her in the morning. I said that would be ok. I she helped get the kids in and she left. I know it's not a big deal and probably means nothing, but even that was better than life has been for us for a long time. Normally she says nothing and barely even looks my way.
I have no clue what it is. New wardrobe, cologne, upbeat attitude, no arguing, no contact or short responses, me GAL... all off it. It's not much of an improvement, but it is a small one
Dating is a very hotly debated topic and whether you should or not.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Most everyone thinks I'm crazy for wanting W back. My ultimate goal, would be to have a real M, with the family whole and healthy. That said, I have my doubts it will happen... But that is my dream. I have seen interest in me by women, it helps ease the pain. I do talk as friends with women, and they know I want my M to workout. It feels good to be noticed and wanted, it's tempting when your situation seems hopeless especially when you know W is dating.
One other thing I forgot to mention about a month ago... My W had posted something on her FB saying she would be deleting her account, but she could be texted at x (her cell). My sister thought noway she'd get rid of it and thought she was doing so just to delete links to my friends. Maybe she felt FB destroyed our M, and she did not want the temptation of ruining her current or future relationship... Not sure. Regardless she still has it. Obviously she can't make up her mind again.
If you want to date because you want to meet other women and have fun, then go for it. But if you're doing it only as a "scheme" to get your W back, then don't.
Don't forget that you're also messing around with the person who you will be dating. They've got emotions too so if you're only doing to get your W back, then it's not fair for them.
And don't do it if you "feel" like you need someone to take care of you. YOu want a relationship not a mother.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
