If this is something you are unable to manage at this time then find a third party to handle the exchanges even if it means you have to pay them a weekly fee to do so. Or, see if there is a "child drop off center" close by. The family court should be able to help you find one if one exists in your area.
Honestly, if your H found out about the treatment program it will probably just fuel more disdain. He wants out and anything that happens that will prolong you wrapping up this divorce will annoy him and in turn he will treat you worse. As time passes he will see a whole new you (much stronger, able to establish and enforce boundaries) and then he can wonder what he is up against.
You want something different but you keep doing more of the same. You have to try.
This is really really good advice. Get someone to help you here.
As upset as you are ... it is going to have the opposite effect of what you are hoping for....it is going to push your husband further away, and it is going to make things very hard for your son. Focus on your positive behaviors. Make the rest of this day wonderful for you and your son. You're worth it!
