Here we go again!

[gutwrenching]

Beth,
It is not over till its over. BUT...your husband is sending all of his emotional energy to someone else right now and you can't change that by talking about things or by screaming at things. This all takes a long time, if it is going to happen. This is hard, it is very hard, and I wish you weren't here. But since you are, back off. As long as he is in an A, and his priorities are with someone else, he isn't coming back at the moment. He may be conflicted and that is good. Right now, he probably wants out, but he isn't sure. So do what works. Pursuing and yelling don't work...you just saw that. Accusations don't work...will probably drive him deeper undercover