She says seperate or divorce after her affair help

[bethann]

I'm not sure that I'm in any situation to help you. I too have 5 children and my husband had another affair(this has happened before), before he walked out in July. I guess it's never too late. Have you read the book?? At this point, if you want your marriage to work, you need to be willing to try anything. My husband did come back - the first time -- which was 7 years ago. However, this time, he keeps telling me that he's not coming back again. One thing I know for sure is that if you don't try, it's not like they're going to do anything except leave. If nothing else comes of it, the book does make you feel better about yourself. For your children's sake, I hope you and your wife are able to work through this - but remember, it's not a quick fix. Be prepared for months of hard work -- nothing is impossible if you have faith.