I'll try to remember what you said. It hasn't been that long since the bomb dropped, so thinking that way (life w/o W) is gonna take some time, but I'll get there.
But really about her behavior, I'm just curious. My DB coach instructed me to read what she is trying to tell me, not just in her words but actions as well. "what is she really saying?" So that's all really.
We had a chat this morning over coffee before the kids woke up about anything from finances to our home, and I think I made a little progress toward being that guy only a fool would leave. She gets teary during our talks and at mass this morning really struggled holding back the tears. She even let me massage her foot a little, which is a far cry from the avoidence. I don't know of she's really conflicted or what. It seems to back and forth.
I've been pretty upbeat around her and only let out any grief when I am alone in prayer. I'm still trying to be the first to say bye etc. and all that pulling away stuff. But heck, it's only been three weeks, and I feel like I'm in love the way I was when we met. I've made clear my moral postion, my feelings and now I'm getting a life and just waiting.
100 days you say? God - that seems like forever!!!
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
