Why is is a question of Retro or MC? Why not do both? You would not get very many MC sessions in between now and January, but it might give you the feeling that you are working together to at least begin moving the elephant out of the room. The two are not mutually exclusive.
The problem is that ineffective or too-slow not-enough MC can reinforce feelings of hopelessness, etc. I like your idea of reading the book together Lotus. Or even listening together in audio form if that's available -- then you can pause and discuss if desired.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
