First of all, it's obvious that you don't live in a community property state or he would have had to have you sign off on any loans or deeds.
I think your H is in big trouble and he's being very secretive about it. I think he's been doing something very suspicious having to do with money and OW knows all about it and he's afraid she can get him into serious trouble.
Why not get some real info, though? Have your law firm recommend a good PI--so at least you won't be haunted with questions. Too many peices of this puzzle are missing, but it's obvious that a lot is being hidden from you for some reason.
