I forgot to add. In my conversation with SIL, she mentioned she does not believe any longer any thing he says. Apparently he had told his whole family, not only to OW, that we were in the process of getting a divorce FOR THE PAST TWO OR THREE YEARS. He just happened to forget to tell me...
She is concerned at how much and how well he lies. She even thinks he might be a pathological liar.
And the saddest part is that I'd had given him a divorce if that is what he wanted... at any time. I would have made no fuss whatsoever... and probably not even gone to a lawyer... I trusted him so much...
Even in May, when I filed for divorce, it was him who kept begging me not to go on with it, and to please give him a bit longer to fix it... We could have been divorced in July... well before I found DR... And any time after that, I always told him I would do it if he wanted it...
If anyone can see the future, please do tell... I could use some insider information.
That goes also for psychologist types that do want to give answers and not questions...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
