Thank you all for yor support. I hope you'll excuse me if I do not check anyone else's threads today; keeping myself in one piece is taking all my energy...

A few clarifications: the house in question is the one my H and OW rented 2 years ago. I did not know it at the time, of course, but they had rented it with an option to purchase, and a year later he paid $4,000 to continue the purchase option but did not buy it. When OW and I talked, in May, she was flabbergasted my H would have spent the money for a house he did not want to share with her (he had told her we were in the process of divorcing). In one of our convos, she commented he should purchase the house anyway...

The house is registered in his name only. The deed transfer date was 10/7/03. As far as I know, OW and her daughters continue to live there, as they have been doing for two years...

He told me OW would be out of his office in 12/24 and not coming back. Her daughters will work for him until mid Jan when a new person is supposed to come to work for him. But I have heard that story before...

I talked to his sis and she does not know where he is. He told her the same story he told me, but she does not believe a word he says anymore. In her opinion I've been too lenient on him... and she is furious about him leaving our D w/o contact.

As for my D, thanks Totite for asking, she is holding up as well as she can. She refused to leave the house at all in the weekend, and yesterday told her aunt (my SIL) that "Daddy's car is here, but Daddy staid at the airport." Last night, she woke up and could not go back to sleep. I asked her why and she admitted she was "worried about Daddy" but could not explain why...

As to the finances... I am financially independent and could do quite well without him, but I do not want my D cheated of what is hers. My lawyers are very expert in this kind of thing, and when the time comes will be quite able to ferret any money he has absconded with... They are a very well known firm with a lot of experience in Family Law. And I have the books for his office for the last two years...

As to my security, well, with a divorce filed and several life policies on his name... he sure would be the prime suspect should something happen to me...

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"