Pie, I am reading your posts and thinking "I'm at exactly the same place." When my H pulls back and acts like a cold a-hole, I can DB my but off. I shine. But then he comes over all sweet and needy, and I melt.
25yearsmlc has been slappin' me upside the head with some great advice and pointing out how much I still pursue my H. I'm finally learning that the mantra arround here about "believe none of what they say & half of what they do," means the good stuff too.
Don't believe for a minute that you are broken. You are not only surviving your H's crisis with strength and dignity, but you are growing and learning through it.
Take a good long look in the mirror and tell yourself you are amazing, beautiful, and irreplacable. List all your good traits. No negatives, or backhanded comliments allowed. The person staring back at you is the one who's opinion counts. Everyone else will just follow your lead anyway.
