feel love thumping at the doors of my heart again

[flowmom]

Maybe because the last exclusive relationship you were in was with your stbxh, you might be a little rusty on defining a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? KWIM?

Newmama, thanks for your input as a recently-ish frequent flyer of 3-6 month relationships. You really have a point. My relationship history has consisted almost exclusively of relationships lasting over a year or two or flings. So you're right that I don't have much experience with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, which is what Guitarist calls it except he doesn't because he feels silly being a "boyfriend" at age 49 .

-are you exclusive? definitely
-do you communicate frequently? yes, mostly initiated by him
-do you make plans together? yes, the next "date" is always planned immediately after the last one. Guitarist invited me to a music show on Dec. 3, wants to go snowshoeing, etc.
-are you meeting each other's friends? he's met my sister and BIL, I've met a couple of his coworker friends
(family can take awhile depending on the people)
-are you spending time together during the day, too? (seems to be a step) ummm, yes but mostly in bed

So it sounds like you would consider it on the boyfriend/girlfriend track?

My main reason for wanting to "define the relationship" is to not make a fool of myself and not get more attached than is appropriate. When I'm with Guitarist I feel like we're on the same wavelength, it's when we're not together that I wonder about things.