LL, When I say I don't want to be hurt, I already have and will continue to be as long as I am in a R with my H. I have to decide if I want to stay in a R where I do not get what I need and haven't for two yrs. I love him, but he may never "wake up" I feel my life is passing me by being all consumed by this for so long. I guess I meant I need to get to a place of detachment-like you have. You are at peace, How do you get there LL??? Rachael