XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[lea74]

Damn, damn, damn!!! I need a big 2 x 4 from someone.

Again I let me XH get to this evening and I gave in. He is supposed to, court ordered to, phone my sons on a MOn, Wed and Fri. Anyway he called this evening. My S10 answered their phone and asked why he was phoning and told him tonight wasnt his night. My s10 didnt seem to be too bothered by it and just said speak to you tomorrow dad.

Afterwards I asked my S10 if he wanted to chat to his dad and he wasnt bothered by it. I started to feel guilty and 'sorry' for my XH, not sure why as I hadnt done anything. My S10 said XH sounded sad and sorry for himself. I then asked S8, if he wanted to speak to his Dad and he also wasnt bothered. I should have left it at that, however I said to S8, that XH sounded sad and that maybe it would be nice to chat to him. My S8 is a softie like me and called his dad. They had a nice conversation, however again OW was put on the phone even though the judge has said that she isnt allowed!! Then OW had the audacity to text my sons and say:
'You talking to your dad tonight has made him so happy. He misses you so much and loves you so much. He is so proud of you.'

This made me so angry as I am the one that encouraged them to talk to him. They werent even interested. I know that the text was directed at me, so responded on their behalf that 'Mom made us.'

Why do I let him get under my skin!!! How can I feel sorry for him??? He has brought this on himself and I dont keep to the boundaries that have been set. The story of my life with him, being intimidated and not being able to stand up to him. What I should have done is not let them answer the phone!!

He is currently in venice with OW, and he misses his sons??? That was his choice and if he really loved his sons, why did he leave them for another woman.

I am so angry at the mo. He has taken advantage of my good nature and again is playing mind games with my sons and she is being her usual manipulative self!

It wont happen again - that is for sure!!!