How do I deal with now he's overseas?

[newmama]

Piano, wow, you are so wise to stay in the present and try to focus on small goals for you that have nothing to do with your HW. Staying in the present is super hard but it was the secret to helping me keep my sanity while I was hopeful and waiting for exH to come back. If I dwelled on the past, it brought heartache and guilt. If I focused on the future, it can make me stressed about my lack of control over the situation.

Also, focusing too much on the future when you don't know what will come of the marriage is mind boggling because there are too many scenarios! Like A) if we are back together B) if we are divorced C) if we are still in the same place as now D)if I decide to move
E)if I start dating.....

it's like one of those problems where you find all the possible combinations of 4 numbers
1234
1243
1324
1342
1423
1432
2341
2143
2431
2413 etc etc!!!!