Welcome to divorcebusting.com. I imagine his conversations put you on a rollercoaster. But you are very good at solution detecting:
I've noticed that he mirrors my moods. When I'm cheerful and actively engage him, he stays longer and chats more freely. If I'm more subdued (but still nice and polite) and don't make follow-up comments to what he says, then he leaves in a hurry. One the few occasions when we talk on the phone, there's often a long pause and then I'm always the one who says goodbye.
So you can see that you have a great effect on the situation. This is what DBing is all about. You CAN turn this around.
One thing I'd like you to try....be a little less available for a conversation in the next few days, without giving a reason. Let him wonder. See if he gets curious.
We are here to help you use the tools in Divorce Remedy and Michele's other works (eg, Keeping Love Alive). Have you read Divorce Remedy?
