She has definitely noticed my 180's and has been trying to push my buttons (most likely to test me) and I have given her NO ammo at all. I am being true to myself for the first time in years. I dont expect anything in return and it really feels good. I feel like I am doing a good job detaching from her.
It's great that you noticed this, Bman. When they are tested is where a lot of folks take a few steps backwards. And it's great that you can detach so that her actions don't trigger you.
One caution....detaching may be part of the inherent problem. You need to be warm while being detached. It isn't easy, but you can do it. It's part of 'real giving'....giving her the sapce she needs, while you are still there for her.
