Thanks sandi, i know that i just need to put myself out there more, push myself to pursue interests and meet new people. I have a hard time doing that. Right now it seems to be a lot easier to sit on the couch and feel sorry for myself, but that won't help anything. I really think that is what he expects me to do. And i need to fill the void of not having him to talk to, he has ow to fill that void. This is something i always have wondered about the affair. My husband is not a huge talker, he opens up to me but not too many other people. That is one thing that is just so out of character with him in this affair. They texted each other 3000 times in a 20 day period. Not to mention at least a thousand emails over the course of the year. They called each other about once a week, and worked together. Why the need for such constant communication?!!!! He has never been this way before, having to be in contact with someone constantly! How could two people have so much to say to eachother. Maybe a former wayward could answer this for me!
