Forgot to add something when I was talking about the way I was before I M. You see, my H & I brought out the best in each other. As long as a couple can do that, then that is great! But, a few years ago, we began bringing out the worst in each other.
I'm not defending your H completely here, just hoping to give you some thoughts. My H was very sweet, kind, gently, etc. But I was very moody. I would be "up" or "down", happy or sad, etc. Like you, I often woke up that way and it would dictate how the rest of my day would go.
Over time and with me having health problems....including depression, it took a big toll on my H's usual mood. Just as we can affect our S in a positive way, we sure can in a negative way. It sadens me to know how much of a negative influence I've had on him.
Don't give up, okay? I have been M many years to the same wonderful man, so it is very likely yours will get much better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
