Ok... Moving on (or trying to) I actually found alot of concrete help at the slaa.org website (which8s a 12-step program for sex/love addicts) and have identified a therapist that deals with love addictions.
Mike, this material is much more hopeful, and teaches the skills to move forward when an addiction is causing problems in your life... Which of course EA's do. They also explain the different types of love addicts, co-dependency, etc. And how some love addicts are actually drawn to Avoiders, because of their desire to put pursue unattainable.
This is making much more sense in my case than those 4-year biological urges to change mates. I think this goes deeper, to losing my father as a small girl... And why I accepted so many years of so much distance in mt M., and why it's hard for me to ask H to meet my needs.
So yes, I am in withdrawal from those brain chemicals, but I think it 's a psychological addiction for me as well. I' ve got to figure this out to make anything work.
