Welcome to divorcebusting.com. I am really glad you are talking with Dotty. She is incredibly experienced and incredibly helpful. Please be sure to follow her advice.
I think to be of more help detecting solutions, folks need to know more about your situation.
What arethings that she is complaining about....and what are the things that are going well? Also...how did counseling go?
Take heart....it isn't hopeless. We are here to help you, to walk through this with you.