putting my big girl panties on

[newmama]

We women totally want to always define the relationship, don't we? It is sooo US!

Just keep being the B.I.T.C.H. that you are.

On the outside looking in, I don't see why you are suspecting the bootycall relationship. I had one of those once. Here is how it worked: he would call me between 12-2 a.m. and ask to come over. We did it, he left. I would hear from him every week or every couple of months. (It was in college--I was dumb and naive!)

Other variations: calls or text to "get together" with little communication in between. Or with a long time in between.
No discussion of next week's plans or "let's get together later in the week" (etc.)

So what do you think?

Maybe because the last exclusive relationship you were in was with your stbxh, you might be a little rusty on defining a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? KWIM?
-are you exclusive?
-do you communicate frequently?
-do you make plans together?
-are you meeting each other's friends?
(family can take awhile depending on the people)
-are you spending time together during the day, too? (seems to be a step)

You see, this is an area I remember well. I was a frequent flier of 3-6 month relationships before meeting exH (with the exception of a 1 year off/on thingy). Of course that was in my 20s with men in 20s-30s. I don't know if our age changes things or not.