Jstar, you are right, he isn't the person I knew, he is someone else, the boys call him the "new dad". They have a point.
Fallgirl, I have no choice about the holiday, I need to leave them to it and see let his life play out, it still hurts tremendously that my ILs are so willing to welcome his mistress into their home when divorce papers aren't even filed yet. Though they aren't ones to have backbones.
We move in 11 days. The boys and I are all in a funk, I'm working on splitting all the goods and trying my best to be strong for the boys. They are feeling it, leaving their friends behind. I'm going to miss my house, but I do know, it is only a house, one I picked out and love, but this is a new adventure for me. Nights without activites are the worst and with it getting dark so early, I feel even more isolated. I did get the boys and I ski passes for the winter, so we can be active. I'm hoping once we get settled I can't start to build my new life, get some stability and routines going. Hopefully the boys will feel settled, too, and we can start healing.
Dagny
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW