Good lord! You guys need to get things in perspective. In the first place....I didn't see where she was bringing up him having an A! But, anyway...........
For your reference, #2059555 - 08/19/10 02:37 PM
Originally Posted By: bustomrama
I consider her reasons for giving an ultimatum/leaving as extremely justified, and, frankly, she had much more patience than she should have. To be blunt, I hurt her severely by allowing myself to become addicted to online computer games for 2 years, resulting in gross neglect of her and our family, and during that time I ALSO engaged in concurrent EA's with two women from the games in Fall of 2008. The EA's included the women sending me pornographic material (pics and text) that my wife discovered. I had already stopped the affairs at the time that my wife discovered the material, but I compounded her hurt by not re-engaging her and being remorseful when she gave me the chance and by continuing to play the games secretively behind her back because I was so damn addicted to them. Around May of 2009, she discovered that I was still secretively playing the games, and she fully emotionally shut down to me. We began an in-house separation at that time with me sleeping on the couch and hoping she would come around trying to do nice things for her, but she was very angry and anxious about the past EA's and my failure to accept what I should have been responsible for. During this time I did keep trying to engage her, but she pretty much didn't want any part of me.
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Stubborness!!
Although You, your husband, my wife and myself may view life and relationships different than some other folks, doesn't mean we should recommend someone say "I've already apologized for that" for their sexual misdiscretions with the other sex. Some people never forget or forgive.
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Trust me, some women will not let it die until he decides to put the pants on and carry forward.
