It is so insane for your W to suggest that talking to OM would help her get him out of her syestem! Just looney tunes! How does one get into an EA anyway?
Her up & down emotions and one day thinking she's ready to get serious about the MR and then the next she's wanting to talk with OM......is normal, IMHO. I think it's all a part of finding her way back. However, she has got to stay on the right path and not fall back into contacting him. It's like she's finding all the excuses to talk to him and it's crazy.
I think Retrouville would be good (based on what I've heard), if she will just keep it together long enough to get there.
If you decide to go to MC instead, please have an agreement with your W that once you get in to see the C and discover that he/she is not pro-marriage.....you'll find another C. And, if your W suggest IC don't agree to it. I went to IC b/c my H would not agree to go to MC and the IC told me there was absolutely nothing wrong with what I did (talking about my EA). So, I sat there and told her about the different men I had contacted over the Internet and she just said what I wanted to hear.
I agree that your W needs to leave for her trip on a good note. I think you would be better off by not talking about the OM or the MR right now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
