the feeling is killing me. I have tried to get him to stay
Ok first thing. Stop pursuing him. Begging and pleading.
It does not work.
You need to DETACH from the emotion this is all causing you. This is the hardest thing to do.
Because of course it feels horrible. Maybe someone can post the detachment link for you.
Right now he is blaming you for what is wrong in his life.
You cannot control that and you shouldn't believe it either.
At least not all of it.
What are his compaints? The ones that hit home. The ones you feel sting?
THOSE are the things YOU need to start working on changing about yourself. (180's)
No relationship talk with him for now. Just VALIDATE his feelings if he expresses them to you. Doesn't mean you agree with them but you acknowledge them.
Start focusing on YOU not HIM. What things can you do that you have always wanted to do? What interests can you put your time into? This is getting a life (GAL) and it will help you get your confidence back and take your mind off obsessing about what is happening in your marriage.
You can do this. One step at a time.
DETACH 180's GAL VALIDATE
Read the resource threads at the beginning of this forum.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
