Quote: I do not want to continue hurting and I do not want to lash out at him. I do not want us to hate each other. We will some day have grandchildren together. But neither do I want to go back to waking up in a sweat in the middle of the night wondering where he is and with whom... or having nightmares about him and OW...
Isn't that horrible!? I remember the sweating and the nightmares all too well.
Quote: My H asked me for time and space to think things over... I agreed, although I fail to see what is he going to decide in 2 weeks when he has not done it in 6 months...
I think Pam gave you some pretty good advice on that business.
Quote: I think we need to address this issue without any more postponements. I will try to MAKE him understand why it is so important for me, and that it has nothing to do with actual money, but trust. Once he understands, maybe he will stop seeing it as an ATTEMPT at CONTROL...
I'm lovingly pointing out something here.
Quote: If he understands but is not willing to give me the kind of security I need, I want to know why... Depending on his reasons for that I will decide whether I can live with that or not...
Are you SURE that you are willing to make a FINAL decision one way or another after you hear his reasons - reasons he may not fully understand yet himself?
Quote: I think my H may well be right: deep down I think his leaving is the end... so I'd better leave him before he leaves me... talk about self-sabotage!
Yes. I think most of us are guilty of self-sabotage.
